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Product Highlight: Julie Ashton Anal Beginner Kit

Thinking about spicing up your sex life a bit? Heard and read a lot about anal but weren’t sure where to start? Ever thought, “That thing is way too big for my butt?” Then the Juli Ashton Anal Beginner Kit is what you are missing. This convenient anal beginner kit comes with all the essentials to start off your anal experience in one package. This kit comes equipped with three anal plugs, one small, one medium, and one large, plus a seven inch vibrator to round it off. Not to mention a container of anal lube for easy insertion. You can start small and work your way up, if that is what you desire. These toys have a delightful vibe that can make the experience that much better, or it can be used to work the clitoris while a plug is in. These four anal toys are made from body-safe non-phthalate, so you can be sure that you aren’t harming your body. Be sure to always use water-based lubricants as oil base will cut down the life of your new anal beginner kit. Also be sure to clean your new anal toys after every use, to keep them free from harmful bacteria for next time.

If you are thinking about trying anal, either with yourself or with your lover, then the Juli Ashton Anal Beginner Kit is for you. Body safe, a total of four sizes and lube makes this a complete package for your new adventure. Batteries are not included, be sure to add AA’s to your order.

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Sex Every Day for a Year, Could you do it?

So it’s seven in the morning and I am sitting here gathering my thoughts about what to accomplish today. We have a lot going on in the next ten days, relocating from West Michigan to Seattle will create a lot of thoughts running through one’s head. I started looking through recent articles regarding sex, sexuality and sex in the news. I came across and article about having sex every day for a year and it piqued my interest, not because I am some 17 year old that thinks that would be totally wicked awesome, but as a 30 year old who has been married for little over four years I have a different impression.

Sex every day for a year is something my wife and I’ve discussed in the past and held the mutual sentiment, “Holy shit that would be a lot of work.” The onset would be amazing, one week, two weeks, a month, we would be the envy of all my guy friends while the women would think she’s nuts, but even everyday for a month seems crazy. How do you even do that? I mean I can come up with three weeks no problem, but do you expect your wife to give you oral sex every day for a week during that time of the month or are we talking about back door action?

Far more goes into it than just simple sex daily, it literally becomes another chore, one more commitment to set your alarm to. Sex daily, if done for a year, can do wonders for your relationship, and wonders for you personally. It would bring the two of you together daily, break down insecurity issues, and get you discussing what you really like in sex. I mean, if you are going to do it for a year daily, you may want to consider some new stuff, the old will get old fast. Most importantly though, it would allow the two of you to talk more in depth about intimacy and what is more important to a relationship than that?

For starters, you don’t need to be married to try sex daily, but being married may make it easier partly because it creates a way to truly strengthen your relationship. Having sex daily while in a relationship can really build a bond unlike any bonds built before. It can bring the two of you together daily, regardless of whether you’re tired and gets you talking and close to each other. I love talking to my wife, it clears my mind, gives me good insight and a chance to bounce ideas off of a trusted friend. If there is anything better for a relationship than sex, it is talking. So the benefits right there can do wonders for your union.

You may discover something new about your partner, or simply break down the insecurity borders, which would be an amazing step. Imagine a day when you are both naked, not one is pointing out a personal flaw to the other and you just lay there enjoying each other’s naked body.

Sex every day for a year can be boring or even a chore quickly if all you are doing is the same old routine. In your bed, same position, yada-yada-yada. Speaking for myself, that would get me through a week and then I’m over it. Interest is lost, I would rather rub one out then do the same old shit for 365 days.

Fortunately, we live in a time where we have access to vast amounts of sex toys, sex books, sex advice and just open sex conversation.  Talking about your journey with friends, with not so many details of course, can help spark new interests. New places to do it at, new positions to consider. There are even books with 365 sex positions for 365 days. The book is great if you can somehow bend your body in all those ways. You could simply start doing it in new rooms, and if you have kids, just wait for them to be asleep or gone for the night. I don’t have kids yet, so I made that sound easier than it really is.

You could try, if you aren’t in shape, both getting in shape together while you go through the journey of sex daily for a year. You can watch the transformation of your bodies and use that for fuel for turning you on. Let’s face it, fat is not healthy, and getting in shape and having sex daily are some of the most healthful things you can do for your body, and mind. You can enjoy each other’s body that much more, appreciate your body more and enjoy the food you like that much more as well.

With all that exercising and sexercising, you will be sure to work up an appetite and a little treat now and then doesn’t hurt. My wife and I exercise together and it is nice. It shows that we are committed to ourselves to be the best we can be, but also to each other. Neither one of us was fat when we got married, and if we were we wouldn’t have ended up together. So what would make us think that gaining 30 or more pounds in a few years is a turn on? It is one of my biggest pet peeves, and it is completely disrespectful to your partner. It’s as if you’re saying, “You were good enough to keep me in shape while we were dating, but we are married now so fuck it, who cares what we look like?” Don’t be that person or couple, keep the drive alive, keep sex daily going by getting in shape together as well.

If you really want to try to spice up your sex life, to keep the spark for 365 days, then sex toys is where it is at. It would be the first thing I would do. We could get a new vibrator for her and a first time prostate massager for me. It isn’t something that I have considered in the past, but hey, we are trying new things so what the hell? The possibilities really are as endless as your imagination.

So build that confidence, build that bond and go shopping together. And with the internet, it isn’t as if we are heading to the corner sex store embarrassed, we can look from the convenience of our home while enjoying some beers. That sounds like a better Friday night then beers with the boys.

The article I read this morning really got me thinking again about what it takes to be with my partner for a lifetime, how much work goes into it. Having sex everyday would no doubt bring us together. It would create a lot of conversation, self-discovery and a new appreciation for the one I love. It would also create a lot of work and would have to be taken seriously. The commitment would be enormous, but if I can commit to staying in shape, going to work every day, then sex everyday can be done. Where there is a will, there is a way. So stay tuned, I may be writing a follow up a year from now chronicling my journey of sex for 365 days.

Here is a link to the original article, enjoy!

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Better than having to give “the tap”

Picture yourself all ready to go, you and your partner are clicking on all levels and those freshly washed sheets are one good time away from being thrown back in the washer. Things start off well; some kissing, some touching and your clothes are slowing, or quickly if you’re anything like me, coming off. Next move is to take it below the equator and really get her engine revved.

Then, as George Castanza embarrassingly puts it, “You’re going along, you think everything’s alright, and then you get: the tap.” Talk about a blow to your ego, and I am not referring to your little man’s nickname. You thought all was going so well, that it was going to be incredible and then POW!: you’re done!. You ask yourself if there is any recovering and how exactly do you make up for it?

Well if you have a solid back up plan then you needn’t have any worries. But what kind of back-up plan could there for already botched attempt at good sex? The Safe Alternative could be a good vibrator. So what, you couldn’t get it done with your well-trained tongue, just couldn’t master that swirl motion? So long as you have an ergonomically-designed vibrator to put between you and your partner during sex.

That’s how we cover you here at The Safe Alternative, as we carry a full line of Lelo brand vibrators, some specifically designed just for the above-mentioned problem. With multiple settings she’ll be able to pick her favorite settings, because you clearly were not, without interfering with either of your good times. What could be better than a guaranteed orgasm after botched cunnilingus?

So don’t sweat it any longer, go down there, give it your all and know if you come up short, we have you covered.





Safe Sex Resources

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As you know, The Safe Alternative is a budding young start-up looking to make an impression on our customers and the web.

Our original idea for the website was to sell sex toys because no matter how the economy is, sex always sells. After a few days we realized we didn’t feel good about that. We felt uncomfortable telling our family and our friends and knew that if the site was something we didn’t want to advocate openly, there was something wrong.

So we decided to look back at our own online sex toy shopping experiences and asked, ‘What was negative about those experiences?’ The primary issue we realized was the perception that when shopping for sex toys you feel as if you’re doing something wrong.

From the female perspective, it didn’t make us feel good to go to a large sex toy website and become overwhelmed with images of nude women. A regular girl can’t relate to the hard-bodied, gorgeous women depicted in these sites. The same goes for the guys, where it seems that size is never an issue and a six-pack is all they live for.

The final negative experience is the “How do you fit that there?” experience. You may be innocently shopping for a buzzing vibrator or a new special lube to try and the next thing you know you’re inundated with “brutal dildos” and “massive butt plugs” and you instantly cringe!

After putting select products on the site, we began to focus on content. We want to give safe sex resources customers can use to make the right decisions when it comes to sex. From a brief history of condoms, to our definition of safe sex, you can come back to reference our resources all the time and we are adding more each day.

Most importantly, we added an ultimate mission to our store. Aside from giving a great shopping experience and resources for good decision-making, we want to give back to those who fight tirelessly to save victims of sex crimes and prevent new crimes from happening. In the end, the entire Safe Alternative operation builds a cycle of good vibes.

We will soon begin to feature the organizations we support so you can come back and see the good your purchases are contributing to help an important group of survivors.

Please visit our site to see our other safe sex resources, such as types of condoms, and how to put a male condom on.

Let us know your feedback, we look forward to interacting with everyone!

Abstinence’s effects on men and women

Think Abstinence? Think again!

At The Safe Alternative, we are advocates of safe sex. While abstinence is a personal choice that every man and woman must make for themselves and there is NOTHING wrong with it, we want to forewarn you that you may want to reevaluate the idea.

So if you’re having a dry spell, check out The Safe Alternative and choose from our selection of products for yourself or a friend. It may help clear your head… or not, if you believe the Seinfeld crew and their take on abstinence’s effects on men and women!

Thanks for checking out our blog, we are in the process of setting up our store, but appreciate you visiting the site in the meantime. We are looking forward to adding interactive content that can help educate and spread the message about safe sex and how we can help victims in need.

Stay tuned!

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Welcome to The Safe Alternative!


Greetings and welcome to The Safe Alternative!

By visiting our site you are helping us reach out to a brand new audience of adult pleasure-seekers. These pleasure-seekers want a safe alternative to the typical online sex shop. Our customers want to feel good about expressing their sexuality, in the privacy of their own home, without feeling inundated by explicit images of porn stars.

Listen, there’s nothing wrong with porn, but as women do you hate trying to shop for a new vibrator and having to look at those big, fake boobs as soon as you log onto an adult toy store website? Or as men do you avert your eyes at the images of chiseled chests and bulging packages plastered on toy store homepages? At The Safe Alternative we want our site to help you feel normal about shopping for sex toys and not highlight feelings of inadequacy about your own body or sex life. Go ahead, walk away from our site without deleting your history or jumping in the shower because Sex is normal!

Furthermore, it’s important that we advocate for healthy sex. There are millions of men, women and children experiencing some degree of sexual violence every day. Whether its date rape in college, human trafficking in Asia, or forced prostitution at the local strip club it’s all violence and it’s all WRONG. That’s why The Safe Alternative will donate a portion of our profits to organizations that support victims of these horrendous crimes. If you have suggestions on an organization to support, please feel free to contact us at and we will be more than happy to donate to legitimate causes.

Thanks again for joining our list, and checking out our blog and our store. We see this as the beginning of a beautiful relationship. Happy shopping!

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