So it’s seven in the morning and I am sitting here gathering my thoughts about what to accomplish today. We have a lot going on in the next ten days, relocating from West Michigan to Seattle will create a lot of thoughts running through one’s head. I started looking through recent articles regarding sex, sexuality and sex in the news. I came across and article about having sex every day for a year and it piqued my interest, not because I am some 17 year old that thinks that would be totally wicked awesome, but as a 30 year old who has been married for little over four years I have a different impression.
Sex every day for a year is something my wife and I’ve discussed in the past and held the mutual sentiment, “Holy shit that would be a lot of work.” The onset would be amazing, one week, two weeks, a month, we would be the envy of all my guy friends while the women would think she’s nuts, but even everyday for a month seems crazy. How do you even do that? I mean I can come up with three weeks no problem, but do you expect your wife to give you oral sex every day for a week during that time of the month or are we talking about back door action?
Far more goes into it than just simple sex daily, it literally becomes another chore, one more commitment to set your alarm to. Sex daily, if done for a year, can do wonders for your relationship, and wonders for you personally. It would bring the two of you together daily, break down insecurity issues, and get you discussing what you really like in sex. I mean, if you are going to do it for a year daily, you may want to consider some new stuff, the old will get old fast. Most importantly though, it would allow the two of you to talk more in depth about intimacy and what is more important to a relationship than that?
For starters, you don’t need to be married to try sex daily, but being married may make it easier partly because it creates a way to truly strengthen your relationship. Having sex daily while in a relationship can really build a bond unlike any bonds built before. It can bring the two of you together daily, regardless of whether you’re tired and gets you talking and close to each other. I love talking to my wife, it clears my mind, gives me good insight and a chance to bounce ideas off of a trusted friend. If there is anything better for a relationship than sex, it is talking. So the benefits right there can do wonders for your union.
You may discover something new about your partner, or simply break down the insecurity borders, which would be an amazing step. Imagine a day when you are both naked, not one is pointing out a personal flaw to the other and you just lay there enjoying each other’s naked body.
Sex every day for a year can be boring or even a chore quickly if all you are doing is the same old routine. In your bed, same position, yada-yada-yada. Speaking for myself, that would get me through a week and then I’m over it. Interest is lost, I would rather rub one out then do the same old shit for 365 days.
Fortunately, we live in a time where we have access to vast amounts of sex toys, sex books, sex advice and just open sex conversation. Talking about your journey with friends, with not so many details of course, can help spark new interests. New places to do it at, new positions to consider. There are even books with 365 sex positions for 365 days. The book is great if you can somehow bend your body in all those ways. You could simply start doing it in new rooms, and if you have kids, just wait for them to be asleep or gone for the night. I don’t have kids yet, so I made that sound easier than it really is.
You could try, if you aren’t in shape, both getting in shape together while you go through the journey of sex daily for a year. You can watch the transformation of your bodies and use that for fuel for turning you on. Let’s face it, fat is not healthy, and getting in shape and having sex daily are some of the most healthful things you can do for your body, and mind. You can enjoy each other’s body that much more, appreciate your body more and enjoy the food you like that much more as well.
With all that exercising and sexercising, you will be sure to work up an appetite and a little treat now and then doesn’t hurt. My wife and I exercise together and it is nice. It shows that we are committed to ourselves to be the best we can be, but also to each other. Neither one of us was fat when we got married, and if we were we wouldn’t have ended up together. So what would make us think that gaining 30 or more pounds in a few years is a turn on? It is one of my biggest pet peeves, and it is completely disrespectful to your partner. It’s as if you’re saying, “You were good enough to keep me in shape while we were dating, but we are married now so fuck it, who cares what we look like?” Don’t be that person or couple, keep the drive alive, keep sex daily going by getting in shape together as well.
If you really want to try to spice up your sex life, to keep the spark for 365 days, then sex toys is where it is at. It would be the first thing I would do. We could get a new vibrator for her and a first time prostate massager for me. It isn’t something that I have considered in the past, but hey, we are trying new things so what the hell? The possibilities really are as endless as your imagination.
So build that confidence, build that bond and go shopping together. And with the internet, it isn’t as if we are heading to the corner sex store embarrassed, we can look from the convenience of our home while enjoying some beers. That sounds like a better Friday night then beers with the boys.
The article I read this morning really got me thinking again about what it takes to be with my partner for a lifetime, how much work goes into it. Having sex everyday would no doubt bring us together. It would create a lot of conversation, self-discovery and a new appreciation for the one I love. It would also create a lot of work and would have to be taken seriously. The commitment would be enormous, but if I can commit to staying in shape, going to work every day, then sex everyday can be done. Where there is a will, there is a way. So stay tuned, I may be writing a follow up a year from now chronicling my journey of sex for 365 days.
Here is a link to the original article, enjoy!
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